Blog Swap: Math Tutor to Future Husband in 688 days

 

Todays guest post is brought to you by
Heather
from
EveryyDayy.
This is all part of the 20 Something Bloggers “Blog Swap 3“.
Don’t forget to go check out my post: Thirty (-One) First Dates) over on her site.

 

 

 

First I’d like to preface this post with an apology. I am a horrible story teller. I mean HORRIBLE. But here is my attempt at amusing you wonderful readers.

 

Hey guys! I’m Heather from EveryyDayy I’m honored to be a guest on Ashley’s blog for the Biggest Blog Swap at 20SB. We originally decided to do something that was on the dating theme, and then I realized, I have never truelly been on a real date. I’ve had boyfriends, and I am dating someone now, but I have never been on one of those awkward first dates, you know that ones that you stress for days over, what do I wear? How should I do my hair? Should I go ahead and get that wax? You know just in case.

Part of me is envious of the dating stories all the other ladies have, but part of my is releaved that I never had to go through that. So rather then telling you about a crazy date, I going to tell you about the crazy way I fell for my soon to be husband. But it’s not as interesting as I thought.

In 43 days I will celebrate my 2 year anniversary with the most amazing guy I have ever met. I never thought I’d be with him, let alone for this long.

I met Jay through my best friend. Sophomore year in college they met in their spanish class and started “talking” I never understood that term, I guess it’s sort of like dating, but not officially. I don’t know. Any way, the time her and I spent together now went to him. Her and I where attached at the hip, until he came around. So of course I got upset, and I wasn’t a big fan of him. In fact you could say I disliked him very much.

For about 2 months, I had very little contact with this best friend of mine, until and unfortunate event occured and I had nobody else to turn to, I called her. To my surprise she was still “talking” to this guy. At this point I realized that I didn’t have much of  a choice I was going to have to accept him, and get over my self. Unfortunetly when I made this decision, she decided she’d rather push him away.

One night I was at work, working on math homework ( I was manager at a McCafe, which is a Coffee shop within the McDonald’s so I could do whatever I wanted) He offered to help me, I’ve never been good at math, so of course I was like heck yea you can help me. So he came over to my dorm (I was still on campus at that time) and we did math homework for literally 5 hours.

This continued for about a week, and then it started getting a little more then math. The flirting started, and the touchyness started. I started lying to my best friend about where I was. I was sneaking over to hang out with him in his dorm late at night. We would talk, and do homework, and it was so nice. I had never had a guy that I could go talk to like that. My boyfriend was horrible, and our entire relationship was based on sex.

Slowly but surely (in a very fast way) I began to fall for him. Why? Because he was perfect. There was nothing about him that I would change. Not a single thing. He was great looking, he was built, he had beautiful teeth (yes major turn-on for me), on top of it all his personality was amazing. For once I felt like a person, and not a toy. He treated me with respect, and let me know that I deserved a lot more then what I was getting from my current relationship.

Unfortunately I met him a little too late. A few days later (maybe a week or so) I made the decision to move back to my dad’s house and do online classes for a little while–There was an incident that occurred that I couldn’t deal with as well as I thought, and removing myself from that environment was crucial to my sanity.

We continued to meet secretly until I left, still just as friends, but with some amazing benefits if ya know what I mean. :0) I moved to my dad’s single. Jay and I where ‘talking’ (whatever that means) not dating. We had become best friends in about a months time. Also in that time I somehow fell in love with him. Of course I didn’t tell him because I wasn’t sure I wanted it, what he would say, or if I could handle its consequences.

New Years eve came a long and Jay invited to a Carolina Hurricanes game with his family. I had never been to a Canes game. We had the best seats possible. We sat up on the second level, in the most amazing seats. We had nice seats, not those hard ugly red ones that make your butt hurt after sitting in the after 5 minutes. We had T.V’s in front of us so we could watch the game on it, or watch it live. So nice. Also with our tickets we got a free meal and free drinks. It was so much fun. The Canes lost, but it wasn’t a big deal, I was having the time of my life.

We decided to go back to Greenville for the night (which is about 1 1/2 drive). When we got back we hung out and talked and everything else that goes along with new years eve. The next day, we laid in bed pretty much all day. It was so great. We made out and hugged and cuddled, and talked, and all that mooshy stuff that nobody likes but me. I loved it. THEN he asked me. We were layin there, and he was like “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” All I could do is smile. I don’t think I actually gave him a verbal answer–I honestly think I nodded my head. I was speechless. It was very unexpected. But I was all smiles. Nothing but. It was such a good feeling.

We spent the next few days together drinking, and laughing, and hanging out, and just having the most fun we could. I went home, and then began our long distance relationship. We talked everyday on either AIM or by phone, so it made it a little better, but it still wasn’t the relationship I wanted. He came to visit several times, and I went to visit him quite often.

 Now, 688 days later, we live in Greenville (Our college town) in an amazing apartment with our 3 kitten crazies, and 2 turtles. We have talked about marriage, and children and hopefully in the near future.
I do hope that I will be able to give a possitive update on the wedding and children decision fairly soon, and I really hope I can share these events with all of you.
Thank you to Ashley for allowing me to guest post, and to you, all her readers for giving me your attention. I hope to visit again soon!